You can be an opinion writer without being obnoxious
Good morning everyone and thank you so much for stopping by!
I would like to address the subject of being an opinion writer for a moment today. To me it is ironic how many good folks have a low opinion of someone who shares their opinions in a straight forward manner on an opinion based website or blog. The funniest part about that is that unless you write pure text book blogs all blogs in one way or the other are opinion based. The difference is that it isn’t clearly labeled that way.
One of the misconceptions I encounter from time to time is that if you are an opinion writer you have to be obnoxious, rude, and without substance. Nothing could be further from the truth actually. In most cases being informed is a prerequisite before you can write a good opinion piece. This means you don’t just throw something out there, but actually pick a topic carefully and research it a little bit first. How can you form an opinion without being at least mildly informed to begin with?
Are some of the topics and opinions going to be offensive? Certainly simply because they voice a personal intake on a subject matter that some people will disagree with. Pay attention in your own circle of friends and acquaintances. You can’t go through the day without offending someone. You don’t even have to open your mouth half the time to be labeled as offensive. Maybe you wore something that is not within another persons moral standard. Maybe you are eating something you enjoy but someone else finds as wrong.
Reality is that you are going to offend someone today if you leave the house. Regardless of what you do, say or not do, someone is going to get their nose out of joint. It is sadly a simple fact of life these days.
I have published a book called “Not quiet Satan” a few years ago via lulu.com. The title alone was offensive to a lot of people. The book didn’t sell very often simply because the title seemed so “out of step” with many. Add to it that it is a pure opinion / sarcasm / humor book and you have a grand mixture of “How dare she?”
I have decided to edit, rewrite and extent the book within the next two weeks in the form of a second edition. Having learned from the mistake of the first title I am going to change it slightly, but the original title phrase “Not quiet Satan” will remain. By the way, no that isn’t a spelling mistake.
The book is held in a humorous way and depicts some of societies most noticeable idiocies these days. The reason it is titled ”Not quiet Satan” is because I am having “Satan” (as in the scapegoat) be my co-writer or sparing partner in it. With other words he refuses to remain quiet or silent.
As an opinion writer nothing is truly safe from me and that of course includes my own foolishness. As I pull the shades away from many topics and shine some glaring light on the dark recesses I most of the time uncover my stupidity as well. Don’t ever think that an opinion writer is exempt from making some really poor choices.
For me at least I think that is where my writing becomes a little easier to swallow for many. I don’t just point the finger at everyone else, but readily laugh and point the finger at myself as well. I am not greater than you, nor do I claim to be perfect in any way. Matter of fact one of my favorite statements is: “I am perfectly imperfect!”
I belief that the one reason an opinion writer is frequently so poorly thought of is that it seems as if they belief only their opinion is valid and counts. That is ridiculous actually since we are all entitled to our own opinions. Matter of fact I encourage people to form their own opinions about my writing an my opinions as well.
To me being an opinion writer is a service in many ways. I simply voice the things out loud many may be afraid to speak about in a public form. This not only gives them validation that they are not alone in their thoughts, but it also gives others the opportunity to think about the topic at hand as well and form their own conclusions.
Consider it as an open invitation for discussion. I try not to cuss too much or be overly rude in the way I word things. Of course at times when you feel extremely passionate about certain topics you may not edit your language as well as you might like. I am guilty of that myself at times.
The one thing that is for certain is that being an opinion writer means you need to have a lot of courage and grow a really thick skin fast.
Now my dear readers it is your turn. I would like to know YOUR OPINION on opinion writing.
As always yours truly
Regina Sunderland
http://iwriteforcash.com
http://theopionatedwriter.com
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Yahoo Contributor Network getting harder to work for!
Ever since Yahoo Contributor Network took over a few things have changed and not necessarily to the better either. Before you were able to share your knowledge pretty much in any way you desired as long as it was written reasonably well. Now they “prefer” a particular writing style to which you need to conform in order to be able to get an up front payment, which is pitifully small to begin with. Is it just me or have the pre-payments been lowered?
Page views seem to be missing which affects your royalty payments. Remember that you get a certain amount of money per so many page views each month. I can track from my various blogs which of my Articles have been viewed and those alone don’t even match up with the page view claims that are made on my account. Very frustrating. Now please remember those don’t even reflect the views which may have come from search engines or readers happening on my content.
Many of the more prolific Authors are leaving Yahoo Contributor Network for this reason. Is it a glitch and growing pains or are we truly being ripped off? I don’t know and I would not presume to know the answer to it. At this moment I am simply making the assumption that Yahoo just doesn’t care about the Writers enough to assure they are happy and taken care of.
I have not submitted a new Article in about 2 months now after I saw the downward spiral develop and I am seriously debating if I should start spending more time on adding new material or not. It is a shame to leave a place in which you have already established yourself and have gained a few friends. For now I will keep my account active on there and probably try to publish a couple of new Articles a week again. Of course I will keep a close eye on the hits I receive via my blogs and which are credited to me. Afterall writing is not “just” my passion but my career as well.
My hope is that Yahoo Contributor Network will clear out the cobwebs soon and make it once more a great place for writers of all topic ranges to not only earn a few extra dollars, but feel appreciated and respected again.
In the meantime I think I will create a webring and a basic contributor link exchange page on my blogs http://iwriteforcash.com , http://reginasunderland.com and my new upcoming blog for writers who are interested in networking (to be announced soon).
Please feel free to join the webring and/or add your yahoo contributor profile URL as well as your personal website or blog if you have one to the YC Contributor Link Exchange page via the comment feature. I will take them and add them to the blog page itself as they come in. I only ask that you do the same on your own blog as well so we can keep the cycle flowing. Make sure you add your page address for this in the command box as well.
Thank you so much and good luck to all my fellow writers!
As always
Regina S.
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The most embarrassing moment in 2011 writing challenge – my Story.
I hate being rushed! Of course there is a good reason for this, usually when I am rushed I end up forgetting something extremely important. In this case it was two things I forgot which really put the clincher on the day for me.
I was running out of time and had to make it to the store at last moment before my company was due to arrive. Of course it couldn’t have been just a couple of items either. Oh no, I needed a few special food items for my impending guests since they were vegetarian while I am a proud meat eater. Well needless to say, I was under prepared since they had just given me the notice of their “surprise visit” due in an hour.
Out of the door I ran and walked in a brisk walk to the closest Market. I almost flew through the aisles gathering the things I needed and came to the checkout counter being slightly out of breath with well over 30 items.
As the Cashier was ringing the items up a line started forming behind me. It never fails, when you are about to embarrass yourself you are going to have an audience. I received the grand total, opened my purse and ….
Yup you guessed it my wallet was still nice and snug at home on my writing desk where I had left it after making an online purchase. Talking about my face being as red as a tomato and to my horror I didn’t even bring my cell phone with me so I could call my husband to bring me some money.
Needless to say the people in line behind me were none to happy with me and being forced to wait for the cashier to cancel the order.
When I arrived back home my guests were already there, waiting outside the front door with the air of long suffering. “We told you we were on our way!” Julie announced loud enough for my neighbors to hear clearly. I just swallowed and said to her turning even redder approximately the color of a fire truck. “Well if you think that is bad you will really hate it when I tell you that I just forgot to take my wallet with me to the grocery store to get you something to eat. I need to go back. Someone give me a ride down there?”
I hurried inside the house, grabbed my wallet and cell. When I got back to the store and after I gathered my items together again my luck sure held. The only Cashier on duty was the same lady who had checked me out before. When she recognized me, she asked with a smirk. “Want to make sure you brought some money this time before I get started again?” I hung my head and held up my money… “I think we are good!”
Yes, there is a reason I hate to be rushed and now you know why!
New Years resolutions – a waste of time?
Are you someone who sets New Years resolutions every year just to break them within a couple of weeks or days? Every year we set out into the New Year with good intentions, only to turn around and fall for the same old habits and mistakes again. The problem is that we are creatures of habit. We get stuck in the same routines, ways of doing things, ways of thinking etc. The only way we can break those habits is by actually learning from the things we have done wrong or see clearly what didn’t work for us the year before.
Instead of making New Years resolutions I have a habit of doing a year in review. I can’t see what is ahead of me, but I can see what is behind me. I can learn from what I didn’t do so well and see where I can make slight changes in order to be better in the year ahead.
Normally I start this during the last two weeks of December and work my way through every aspect of the year. Since I keep extensive journals, records and notes this is not all that difficult to do for me. I keep each thing in its own category and is it was something I could control or if it was out of my control. Actually admitting that some things are out of my control is extremely difficult for me and was something I learned to get better at a little bit at a time. That is actually where the seperation of under my control and out of my control originally came from. Of course I am not allow to make excuses either.
I do have to be honest with myself at all times. Now ones I have my lists done I can go over them. The things listed under out of my control are just disregard. No matter what I would change there is nothing I could do to change it if it was to happen again. The only thing I can do different is be a little more prepared.
When I look over let’s say the work category I will see themes emerging quickly. Usually it is the same mind set, the same mistake, the same habit repeatedly that caused the problem to begin with. I can now take action and eliminate what has caused the problem. For example I had went into a total burn out last year because I had set too many expectations for myself and had too many venues which didn’t even bring me any money in. My organization had become faulty and instead of being realistic I just cramped too much into an ungodly stretch of time. This of course was a recipe for disaster. No matter what the underlying reason for this was, I went about it the wrong way and in the end caused myself more harm than good. The resolution was a bit uncomfortable for me at first since I hate admitting defeat, but in the end correct a major problem in the relationship sector as well. You have to remember that a lot of the different aspects always have a cause and consequence reaction.
By getting rid of the blogs which didn’t bring me any income or had very low traffic, I reduced my daily work load. Making it possible for me to get through the work load I set myself and take some time off. Which in turn lowered my stress levels and made me more willing and able to spend time with my husband in a fun way. Which in turn made our relationship a lot funner and healthier.
So instead of making resolutions I took action and started the New Year off with a healthier habit. This of course makes it possible for me to sustain it, since I had already gotten myself into a habit and used to it.
Another thing I do is see if something really needs changing or if I just need to adjust the way I perceive or handle it. I am a very opionated person, but 80% of the time my opinions are based on facts instead of assumptions. Instead of trying to “keep my opinions society friendly and so feeling as if I have to be a hypocrite and lie through my teeth, I have given myself an outlet in which I speak my mind without censoring my thoughts. I clearly labled it. Being opionated is not a bad thing and simply means that you can “think for yourself” instead of blindly following what everyone else says or does. You are being authentic.
For example todays blog post on “The Opionated Writer” was about Walmart. The way we act, the way the associates are treated and the stupidity of the higher echolon there. You can read this here! Yes this piece is full of straight forward opinions, but all of them are based on facts.
Now since the title alone “The Opionated Writer” tells you already what sort of person and writer I am, you can simply avoid it if those sort of blogs irritate you. You are clearly warned of its content and context before going there. If you don’t like reading someone elses opinion you just stay away from it.
You see once again instead of making the New Years resolution that I will be society and politically correct (which is not in my nature) I created a safe place which is clearly marked to vent and be myself. If I would have made this as my New Years resolution I would have broken it in 10 seconds flat since it goes against my personality. Now however I can write my posts in a “reader friendly” way on all other blogs and be my opionated little self on the blog designated for it. Works out all the way around!
I guess I suggest that you find solutions instead of making resolutions.
What is your take on this? I would love to hear what you have to say on this topic. Drop me a comment and tell us how you handle your growth in 2012!
As always
Regina S.
Sometimes you just can’t meet your goals!
I started the New Year out with a daily work schedule and goal which I set for myself. That is extremely important since I do run so many different online businesses by myself. If I wouldn’t do these plans I would fall flat on my face again and end up forgetting something important.
The downside to this is that I work out of my house and with that can be interrupted a lot. I am also married which means often my plans and schedules get changed on a moments notice if my husband wants to do something. That in a way if the beauty and downfall of working for yourself and out of your home. It is really hard for those who work outside the house to understand that you have to be just as diligent if not more so in your efforts in order to meet your financial goals each month.
I am one of those lucky women who has a husband who wants her with him everywhere he goes. We don’t belief in “guys night out” or “girls only night”. We do things as a couple, which has helped us avoid a lot of misunderstandings and needless drama. Of course it is also really difficult when I have to work and he is off. Since I am accountable only to myself, he often has a difficult time understanding why I can’t just drop things when he is ready to go. So instead of causing major waves in my relationship over something that can be adjusted on my end, I just play catch up later.
This week was one of those situations. I am going to lose 3 full work days since we were going to be out running around trying to find things for his newest hobby. Something I am slowly being roped into as well. Smiles, not that I mind. I love doing things with my honey. This of course means that my updates are going to be late, have to be back dated and I’ll end up having to work in the evening instead and work on my scheduled day off. All things which I couldn’t do if I was working for someone else.
Now of course I have to watch out that I don’t fall into the wrong habits of last year. Which means I actually have to be willing to shrug my shoulders and say: “What doesn’t get done, just doesn’t get done. I get a new week next week.” It also means I have to take a look at priorities. Which of the things I need to catch up on have the greatest potential of bringing me a profit and which are still in the seeding period. The ones in the seeding period I can leave at the wayside for one week if I have to, the ones already established and dependent on me following through have to be done.
What I can’t do is drive myself crazy over them. I take the days off knowing that I will fall behind, but I am weighting out what is more important to me. My husbands happiness and our relationship or my schedule and convenience. Since I love my husband more than anything else, he will always win out in the end. That is just a choice I made a couple of years back. Of course now he is going to have to understand on Thursday that I will have to put a full days work in and will not be available to him but in bits and pieces. Something he knows and understands. I know I will be able to count on him to help me out a little bit with household related things as well.
I have recently filmed a relaxation mesmerization clip which deals with this. It was created for everyone who simply can not shut down and realize that sometimes you just have to say: “It is ok for me to tell others they have to wait a little while because I can not be in all places at once.”
We create stress for ourselves more than is necessary. Slow down a little bit, realize that sometimes you just can’t meet your goals and you will be surprised how much more you will actually accomplish once you take the pressure off.
As always
Regina S.


